Stop bullying: what to do if a child is bullied at school?

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Every third child in Russia experiences bullying at school. At the same time, only every tenth parent is aware of the problem. Adults, including teachers and school principals, may not notice the problem or simply turn a blind eye to it. As a result, classmates humiliate the child every day and play football with his briefcase, and this child can then commit suicide or come to school with a gun. Together with psychologist Anastasia Tutik, we are looking into why children are silent about problems and how to help them.

How is bullying different from regular conflict?

Children sometimes quarrel. They may push each other, yell at each other, and even fight - and that's okay. If today Petya and Misha called each other names, and tomorrow they play football together, this is not bullying, but a conflict. It is impossible to completely avoid conflicts between children. And there’s no need: conflicts teach them to cope with aggression, defend their rights and make peace.

Bullying is aggressive behavior that is repeated over and over again. At the same time, the children’s strengths are not equal, that is, some act as aggressors and bully others as victims. And these roles remain unchanged. Bullying does not teach anything good, it only harms.

Characteristics of bullying:

• emotional or physical abuse. This could include insults, jokes, gossip, as well as fights and skirmishes;
• bullying occurs constantly and is directed at the same person;
• the class either supports the aggressor and also poisons the victim, or pretends that nothing is happening.

Many adults believe that “that’s just the way kids are these days” or reduce bullying to the problems of individual children. For example, they believe that “Sasha is beaten at home by his drunkard father, so he takes it out on a classmate” or “It’s not surprising that everyone laughs at Ksyusha, she stutters and can’t stand up for herself.” But bullying is always a systemic mistake. When a child is bullied at school, there is not only an aggressor and a victim, but also bystanders. Classmates and teachers support the conflict in one way or another, even if they don’t get involved in it and believe that everything that happens doesn’t concern them.

Parents who believe that the problem is exaggerated should imagine the following situation:

• An adult comes to work, but no one greets him. Colleagues turn away and laugh behind his back. When a person sits down at his desk, it turns out that the wire from his monitor is cut. The man asks his colleagues what happened, did they see who did it, but everyone is silent and pretends not to hear anything. He goes to the boss to warn him about the problem, but the boss only shouts because the subordinate came to him with some nonsense and cannot figure out the situation himself.
• When a person brings an office equipment specialist to the office, it turns out that the wire is intact. The master looks at him like he’s a fool, and his colleagues choke with laughter. The person blushes, gets nervous and goes to the toilet to calm down. And when he returns, he sees that the things from his bag are scattered along the corridor.
• He tries to complain to friends and the labor inspectorate, and in response he receives: “You need to be able to get along with colleagues” or “This will pass, just be patient.”

At the same time, an adult has experience and competence - he knows where to turn for help and, in the end, can simply quit. But a child who is bullied every day at school cannot do anything about it.

Svetlana, 35 years old:

— Our class was the strongest in terms of academic performance, but at the same time the most uncontrollable. Me and two other guys were constantly bullied for any reason. My family is not rich, I wore my older sisters’ clothes, and my classmates mocked me for this, saying: “Maybe you can take a doormat, it will suit your skirt,” or “My socks are torn.” Do you want me to give it to you? You will pass it on to your children as an inheritance.” The instigator of the bullying was a boy named Dima, and everyone else repeated after him. I remember how he came up to me in physical education and said: “If you fail the class and do the relay poorly, I will kill you.”

I was scared. I told my parents about this, but they advised me to be smarter, laugh it off, and said that the ability to laugh at oneself is a very important quality.

Teachers also ignored the problem. One day, my classmates poured a bucket of water on me. I approached the teacher and asked to go home to change clothes. The teacher replied: “Oh, don’t make things up, the clothes will dry out anyway.” So I sat through all the lessons wet. It was cold and disgusting, and my classmates were laughing.

In high school, I tried to fight back - I screamed and swore, but because of this, the bullying became stronger. Then I applied to another school, but did not do well in English. The director of this school contacted my parents and said that they were ready to accept me if I improved my English with a tutor. My parents decided that I couldn’t cope, and they left me at my old school.

One day I plucked up courage and asked Dima why he constantly mocks me. He said: “There are simply people who are disgusting in themselves, and you are one of them.”

After ninth grade, many of the guys from Dima’s retinue went to college, he stopped bullying me and other classmates. When I think back to my school days, I shake, bullying had a huge impact on me. Now, when I encounter aggression, I fall into a stupor and feel like a defenseless schoolgirl, and not an adult woman.

Anyone can become a victim of school bullying, just like anyone can be an aggressor. Parents may think that their child has good and friendly classmates, but in reality they spit after the child or take his money. The prestige of the school will not protect the child either - bullying occurs both in private schools and in elite lyceums. This is why it is so important to recognize the signs of bullying.

Conflicts in children's environment

Children can encounter disagreements with peers at any age.

Toddlers and preschoolers

At 2-3 years old, conflicts between children can arise due to:

• awkwardness and clumsiness when one baby accidentally pushes another;
• desire to possess someone else's toy;
• “wars” for territory (the child “favored” the slide and does not let anyone there).

It is impossible to predict the occurrence of such situations. Therefore, mothers and fathers should be especially careful when going for a walk to the playground in order to prevent an impending quarrel in time.

At the age of 4-6 years, the causes of discord between children are:

• envy of other people's successes;
• jealousy of adult attention;
• resentment towards a peer for not sharing a toy or sweets.

At this age, preschoolers can often provoke conflicts themselves, and will punish the one who first used force.

Junior schoolchildren

At primary school age, the reasons for disagreements between children remain the same as in kindergarten. Added to these are envy of good grades and the teacher’s favor, as well as hostility towards those children who are somehow different from others: wear glasses or have problems with being overweight.

The guys begin to come up with offensive nicknames and tease the “black sheep.” This happens both in order to attract attention and amuse others, and with the desire to assert oneself at the expense of the weak.

Teenagers

The desire to humiliate an opponent at the expense of one’s own importance increases during adolescence .

Many people are faced with the phenomenon of bullying, which can occur in real life (remember the movie “Scarecrow”) and on the Internet (this phenomenon is called “cyberbullying”).

As a rule, the victims of bullying are quiet, shy children who do not know how to fight back their bullies. The reasons for bullying can be any detail that distinguishes a child from his peers.

And if at primary school age bullying is limited to inventing offensive nicknames and teasing, then teenagers often use physical force against the “victim”.

As practice shows, moralizing conversations with the instigators of bullying and appeals to conscience do not save. If adults do not intervene in the situation in time and stop the conflict, everything can end very sadly.

In addition to bullying, disagreements between teenagers can be caused by:

• competition for the attention of the boy or girl you like;
• attempts to gain the favor of an authoritative teacher or coach;
• desire to occupy a certain status in the group.

As you already understand, any conflict between children requires resolution. But what is the best way to do this? Is it worth giving back to offenders or is it better to solve everything with words?

We'll talk about this further.

What to pay attention to

When a child is bullied at school, he becomes very nervous. And if he doesn’t tell his parents anything, this tension will accumulate and affect his behavior and mood. For example, a quiet and calm child may begin to snap and be rude. Young children are characterized by psychosomatic manifestations - vomiting, headache.

Here are a few more signs to look out for. A child is most likely to be bullied at school if he:

• doesn't want to go to school;
• begins to study worse;
• becomes withdrawn, taciturn;
• sleeps poorly - cannot fall asleep or has nightmares;
• comes home with torn or dirty clothes;
• begins to undereat or overeat;
• cannot or does not want to explain where the bruises or cuts appeared on his body;
• spends almost all his time at home, is not friends with anyone.

These signs do not always indicate that a child is being bullied at school. Sometimes this happens during adolescence or during the period of adaptation to a new class. Whatever the reason behind it, any changes in the child’s behavior are a signal that something is going wrong.

How to humiliate a person with a word: examples of phrases and behavior patterns

• a stupid (very stupid) creature is a person who is not even worthy of the title of man in his stupidity;
• animal (you can add the adjective “dirty”, “useless”, “evil”) - a person who stands on the same level as unreasonable beasts;
• scum - a low and vile person, devoid of conscience;
• shameless, unscrupulous - a person devoid of any shame;
• reptile - a person whose qualities are more reminiscent of a slimy reptile;
• cattle - a person is stupid and incapable of reasonable actions;
• carrion - a person who has nowhere to go lower;
• imbecile - a person whose mental development is equal to that of a mentally retarded person;
• idle talker or empty talker - a person who talks in vain.

Why are children silent?

Children who are bullied at school rarely ask for help. This is not always connected with upbringing and family relationships, but this option cannot be ruled out. For example, if a dad teaches a boy that a real man doesn't cry or complain, the child will keep everything to himself. And if the mother comes home from work irritated, the child will not tell her about the problem, so as not to anger her even more.

A child's silence may depend on age. For example, teenagers prefer to solve problems themselves, while younger children are often afraid of upsetting their parents.

There are other options. Perhaps the child is silent because:

• intimidated - the offender said that if the child complains to someone, he will ruin his whole life;
• doesn’t want to be a snitch - thinks it’s bad to complain;
• thinks that if his parents interfere, he will be bullied even more;
• is embarrassed to admit that he cannot cope on his own;
• blames himself - believes that the reason is that there is something wrong with him and he deserves it;
• is afraid to tell his parents why exactly he is being bullied - for example, if classmates joke about the girl supposedly having many sexual partners;
• succumbs to the authority of an adult - when a child is offended by a teacher, but the teacher believes that the adult is always right. A teacher can be both an aggressor and an instigator of conflict among children - for example, if he compares students with each other, makes comments, labels or singles out favorites.

A child may remain silent about bullying for a variety of reasons, which is why it is important to pay attention to any changes in his behavior.

Kostya, 28 years old:

“I had a good family, my parents rarely fought and always took care of me.
Mom knitted to order, dad worked at a factory. In junior high, I had braces and was generally clumsy, so I was teased, but my parents supported me. I also had friends in the yard, so I wasn’t too worried.

When I was 10 years old, my father went somewhere and never returned. He is still considered missing. Mom was not herself, I felt lost and withdrawn. All the teachers knew what had happened, but they didn’t tell anyone in the class; gossip started that our father left us and went to his mistress.

They stopped teasing me with snaggletooth, but began to harass me: they took away my bag, beat me if I resisted, insulted me and called me a whiner. Sometimes there were friends from the yard next to these offenders, but they just watched silently. And then they also began to mock me.

The teachers knew about it, but ignored it. The school psychologist asked how I was doing, if anyone was hurting me, but I didn’t say anything, and he simply stopped calling me to his place.

I didn’t go out for walks, I started to stutter, I could cry in class in the 9th grade - not sob, but shed a tear when the teacher scolded me for writing a test poorly. I became a poor student, and the teachers only added fuel to the fire: they said in front of everyone that I had completely gotten away with it and that I had no future. My father’s disappearance really hit my mother, and she also worked two jobs, so she had no time for my problems at school.

I grew up an outcast and was very angry at everyone. I've never been to a high school reunion and I continue to hate my teachers and classmates.

School will end, but the consequences of bullying will not go away. If a child is not helped to cope with the problem in time, he will grow up unsure of himself, will suffer from depression or auto-aggressive behavior - he will take out aggression on himself.

Responsibility for bullying

Most teenagers who commit illegal (including from a moral point of view) actions against their classmates believe that they will not be held responsible for this. But the Criminal Code of the Russian Federation does not think so. Starting from the age of 14, a teenager can already answer for the following articles:

• Article 111 – intentional infliction of harm to health, including psychological harm.
• Article 213 part – hooliganism.
• Article 112 – causing harm to health of moderate severity.
• Article 158 – theft
• Article 161 – robbery.
• Article 162 – robbery.
• Article 163 – extortion.
• Article 167 part 2 – intentional damage to someone else’s property.

From the age of 16, liability comes into force under the following articles of the Criminal Code of the Russian Federation:

• Article 110 – incitement to suicide due to harsh treatment, systematic insult, humiliation of honor and dignity.
• Article 282 – humiliation of human dignity, incitement to hatred or enmity.
• Article 116 – battery.
• Article 119 – threat to kill.
• Article 128.1 – libel, dissemination of knowingly false information.
• Article 117 – physical or psychological torture.

If the offender is under 14 years old, the parents will be responsible for his actions, Article 5.35 of the Code of Administrative Offenses of the Russian Federation.

Teachers may also be held liable if it is determined that they were negligent in their duties. There is also an article for negligence in the Criminal Code of the Russian Federation.

How to talk to your child

If a parent suspects that a child is being bullied, the first thing to do is talk to him about it, and not run to school and start a scandal. You cannot ask a child directly, put pressure on him or arrange interrogations - this will make him close down even more.

When talking about bullying, it is important to consider the child's age. If he is in elementary school, you can find out everything through a game, for example, through a fairy tale with an agreement. The name of the main character should be consonant with the name of the child, so that it is easier for him to associate himself with him. For example, the child’s name is Vasya, and the character in the fairy tale is Vanya. The story should sound something like this:

• On a warm autumn morning, the boy Vanya goes to school, and thinks that... On the way to the classroom, Vanya meets classmate Dima, and the boys... When Vanya was called to the blackboard in math class, the teacher told him that... At recess, Vanya...

The child himself must fill in all the gaps. If he says that he doesn’t know what happened next and refuses to finish speaking, this is a defensive reaction. Then the parent needs to say: “Let’s make it up, this is a fairy tale. What would you dream up?” It is important to show the child that this is a game so that he relaxes. Through supposedly invented answers, the child will tell the parent about what worries him.

With a high school student, a different approach is needed. It is important to establish a safe zone, establish emotional contact and only then ask carefully. Even if the child does not want to talk about the problem, parents need to say that it is important for them and that the child is not to blame for anything. For example, say: “It seems to me that something is happening to you, and I’m worried. I know for sure that the reason is not you. If something goes wrong, you don't have to deal with it yourself. It’s normal to ask for help; adults should deal with difficult situations.”

The child does not need his parents to promise to “destroy” the offender, the school and everyone around him. Containing emotions can be difficult, but a child needs a calm adult, next to whom he feels safe, knows that he is understood and that his parents are on his side. You should not immediately take the problem into your own hands; you need to ask the child what he would like to do - this will give him a feeling of control over the situation.

There is no magic phrase that will help you instantly get your child talking - it will take time to establish emotional contact with your child. You need to pay attention to your children constantly, and not pester them with questions five minutes before leaving the house. The whole family needs to get together more often, ask for the child’s opinion on various issues and not try to control his every step.

But all these methods are more suitable for prevention: so that the problem does not start to grow and the child knows that he can always turn to his parents. If everything is obvious and the child regularly comes home with bruises, you should not wait until he wants to open up to his parents - it is better to immediately contact a psychologist.

Tell your child the correct behavior

It's really hard not to lose your head when people call you names. Tell your child a way to more easily control himself and not give the offender the reaction he is seeking. The main thing is to keep in mind the idea that all these offensive words have nothing to do with the child’s personality. But they say that the offender has many problems in life. If, in response to offensive words, a child begins to argue, respond with the same name-calling, cry, threaten or rush into a fight - none of this will help. What will help is to keep in mind the idea that someone’s evil words do not make the child worse, and do not turn into someone who is being teased. Nothing comes from words at all. To make it easier to maintain composure, you can try to imagine the situation like a movie. Imagine that the child is looking from the side, admiring the self-control of the main character (himself), and being surprised at the stupidity and foolish behavior of his offender. By imagining the situation from the outside, the child shifts the focus of attention (this is not happening to me), and may not take the attacks to heart. Lyudmila Petranovskaya writes: “If you managed to remain calm, you can behave correctly. For example:

• Yawn (“It’s so boring...”)
• Smile (“I’m so glad you’re having fun!”)
• Turn attention to the offenders (“Yes, I know you like to say that”)
• Give permission (“Call me names”)
• Turn everything over (“Can you still?”)

At first, the offenders may disperse. They will try to shout louder and more offensively. But if you continue to remain calm, they will quickly get bored. Because they will look like mosquitoes barking at a calm, calm elephant. There are few real offenders, those who start everything. One or two for the whole class. The rest of the guys join them without thinking. They just think at first that it’s a lot of fun to point a finger at someone, repeat offensive words and laugh. As long as you're a victim, they think that's how you should be treated.
But if you behave correctly, they will feel awkward. They might even feel ashamed. And some of them may very well respect you and want to be friends with you.” Source: https://www.uaua.info/ot-9-do-16/shkola-ot-9-do-16/news-48058-chto-delat-esli-menya-obzyivayut-v-shkole-sovetyi- psihologa-kak-rebenku-borotsya-so-shkolnyim-bullingom/ Share with friends

How not to react

You cannot look for the cause of bullying in a child, think that he behaved somehow wrong, since he is being bullied.

Parents want to raise their child to be independent, independent and courageous. But since a child is being bullied, it means he cannot fight back on his own and needs help. No child wants to be a victim, and if he could solve the problem alone, he would.

Advice from psychologists to parents and children

In order for a child to grow up strong and confident, as well as able to behave correctly in a conflict situation, parents must follow certain rules of upbringing:

1. Teach your child to admit their mistakes and take responsibility for them. Yes, he really was wrong for pushing the boy on the playground. Yes, he’s really wrong for being greedy and not giving his sister half the chocolate. The child must find the strength to admit that he is wrong and correct the situation. Apologize, offer to play together or give your sister a beautiful keychain. When your son or daughter takes responsibility for his own behavior, he will become much more confident.
2. Remember the basic rule - conflict is resolved not only with fists. Calmness and a confident tone of conversation can discourage offenders for a long time.
3. An important skill in your child’s life will be the ability to say “no.” If a son or daughter doesn’t want to, he is not obliged to let his classmates copy their homework or share the donated chocolate. It’s good to be kind, but you shouldn’t allow someone to take advantage of your kindness.
4. Learn to calmly respond to ridicule and name-calling. Explain to your child that verbal aggression, as a rule, is used only by weak individuals to assert themselves at the expense of others. The best way out of this situation is to ignore them.
5. The child should know that it is better to immediately tell his parents about all troubles. Don't be shy to ask for help. Parents will always give the necessary advice, support and protect.
6. Introduce sports into your child's life. They will help him develop patience and endurance, as well as willpower and self-confidence.
7. It will be useful to learn how to win over other people. Even the most notorious offender can turn out to be a good friend and loyal comrade. Try to find common ground with him. Maybe you have a common hobby or you both love animals.
8. Conflicts, ridicule and humiliation are, of course, unpleasant, but not fatal. It is important that the child learns to cope with negative emotions and not react too painfully to acute situations.
9. Talk with your child more often about his school and extracurricular activities, take an interest in his relationships with classmates. Pay special attention to the child’s psychological well-being.

Conflicts in a child's life are inevitable. But to learn how to solve them correctly, you don’t have to use your fists. It is enough to be a strong and self-confident person, able to defend your own opinion and not follow the lead of offenders.

What to do next

To begin with, you can try to talk to the parents of the offender. If they do not take the problem seriously and believe that their child is an angel, it is worth enlisting the support of the school and talking to the class teacher. This must be done politely and calmly, because the main goal is to solve the child’s problem, and not to throw out your anger. In a conversation with the teacher, it is important to discuss the strategy: specific steps and deadlines.

If conversations with the teacher lead nowhere, you can create a conciliation commission. In this case, parents, school administration, mediators and psychologists gather to resolve the conflict. Students themselves can also join the committee. The decision made at the meeting will become binding on the school premises.

The teacher can also be the offender, and then it is more difficult to solve the problem. First you need to understand whether he is really behaving unprofessionally or whether the child is overreacting to comments. It’s worth talking to your classmates’ parents to find out how they see the situation. If there is a problem, contact the school principal; if this does not work, contact the local education department and administration.

Sometimes parents believe that it is easier to transfer their child to another school, because publicity and hype can only intensify the bullying. It is not always so. Bullying exists because of impunity. Usually the problem is resolved as soon as the offender is held accountable. However, if the school cannot help and the bullying continues, the most important thing is to keep the child safe. You can transfer him to another school and continue to solve the problem.

Nastya, 19 years old:

“In elementary school, I had a very stern teacher, she would yell at us for no reason, say something rude, hit us with a ruler or throw chalk at someone.
She liked to add the word “pan” to boys’ surnames. One day she called a boy with the surname Nosov to the board and asked: “Well, Mr. Nosov, what will you tell us today?” The class laughed, and the boy got the nickname “diarrhea” for a long time. The teacher called the girls “secret girls,” I didn’t understand what that meant, so I asked my parents. My parents were shocked and began asking questions about what was happening in our class. After that, they decided to talk to the teacher, but the director was on her side and did not see any problem. Then my parents said that if the teacher starts screaming or hitting someone with a ruler, I should record all this on my phone. I did so.

With the records, the parents immediately went to the city administration - they knew that it was pointless to expect help from the director. The question arose about dismissing the teacher, but suddenly half the class was against it. Many parents believed that strictness is not a bad thing, and that the teacher is a strong teacher who will provide us with a good future, so we can be patient.

The teacher was eventually fired, but things only got worse. If earlier my classmates and I had a common enemy - the strict class teacher, now I and my family have become an outcast. Parents were ignored at meetings and removed from the general chat. They constantly made fun of me: they said that the new class teacher gave me A's only because she was afraid that I would film her too. The children were probably simply repeating what they heard at home from their parents.

Our city is small, and there was no point in transferring to another school. Therefore, our whole family moved to another city.

Some parents who have experienced bullying of children at school advise immediately withdrawing their child from the educational institution. They believe that it is pointless to fight bullying - since it exists, it means that teachers and administration have failed to build the right relationships between students. This means the problem will arise again. Therefore, you need to look not just for a new school, but also for a good class teacher. Ideally, he is able to establish and control the rules of life in the classroom and take responsibility. It is almost impossible to determine this right away. You can focus on the teacher’s desire to solve the problem - if it is no less than that of the parents, then there is a chance that the situation will not repeat itself.

What to do if a child cannot resist in a quarrel?

Parents are often upset by the fact that the child seems to know all the ways to resolve conflicts, but in a critical situation he gets lost and cannot fight back against the offenders.

There may be several reasons for this:

Psychologically dysfunctional family environment

If dad often insults and humiliates family members, and they, in turn, cannot defend themselves in any way, the child’s position of victim is reinforced. And in any cases of aggression from other people, he falls into a stupor and cannot stand up for himself.

Or a strong-willed and self-sufficient mother does not give the child the opportunity to resolve a conflict situation on his own, preferring out of habit to take everything upon himself and show the offenders of his son or daughter “where the crayfish spend the winter.”

In both cases, children live for years with the attitude “I’m weak, I can’t protect myself.”

Characteristics of the child

It is more difficult for closed, vulnerable and shy children to resist in conflict situations.

Parental behavior

The child sees that parents sometimes cannot defend their own rights. For example, if the neighbors behind the wall listen to music loudly at night, mom and dad prefer not to pay attention to it, instead of talking to them or calling the police.

Incorrect parental settings

From childhood, a child is taught that “it’s not good to be greedy, you need to share with everyone” or “only bad boys and girls fight.”

As a result, when a child is faced with an attack on his property or physical aggression from peers, he is subconsciously afraid of being judged by his parents and does not take any action.

We figured out the reasons. Now let's talk about what actions parents should take to help their child become more confident in their abilities.

How to help a child?

1. First of all, the child should feel that you are on his side and will always come to his aid. Do not scold or shout at him, this will lead to the opposite result - the child will feel even weaker and helpless.
2. Explain to your son or daughter that his interests are no less important than the interests of other children, and sometimes you need to be able to protect them.
3. If the child is still small and is not able to repel the attacks of other children, parents need to resolve the conflict situation themselves on the playground or on a walk. Then gradually give the child more independence in this matter, observing how events develop, and being ready to always come to the child’s aid.
4. Together with your child, develop an algorithm for dealing with conflict:
   if it concerns an attack on a toy or other property, the child must say: “This is my toy, I haven’t finished playing with it yet. Give it back to me, please!”;
5. in case of physical aggression from the enemy, the following phrase will help: “It hurts me. If you don’t stop doing this, I won’t communicate with you anymore and I’ll tell the adults everything”;
6. if the offender continues the attack, you should stop him yourself or with the help of a teacher, teacher, or any adult nearby.

These situations can be reinforced in a game or conversation on the topic “What will you do if...” (they call you names, you are attacked by hooligans, etc.).

How to insult someone to tears

If you want to insult a person without using swear words, use civilized speech and the examples below. Obscene language in an offensive tone emphasizes your helplessness and inability to express thoughts in cultural words. When you swear, the person to whom these words are addressed gets a lot of pleasure from the fact that you lost your temper. It is much more effective to learn to insult with clever phrases, while maintaining cool calm. Below I will give you examples of how to “trample” someone’s personality not with a heel, but with proud words.

Phrases and quotes from various sources

• Don't be afraid, I won't beat you. Nowadays, you can get a prison term for rough treatment of animals.
• Do you know how dangerous a humiliated person is? No? I'll show you now!
• How beautiful and easy it was on the street until you showed up)
• Oh, what is this? is this a joke? okay, continue...
• Go herd hedgehogs, local peacock.
• If you fall under the hot hand, you will fly under the hot foot
• You don’t know what to call a person to make him shut up? Here you go - Dry up and crumble the herbarium! It’s too much to call people names only this way and not otherwise - respect each other, don’t lose face!
• Arrogance does not elevate a person, but humiliates him in the eyes of others...
• Don't know how to touch someone with words? Just tell him the truth!
• If you have wings growing behind your back, don’t croak!
• You just think very poorly of people if you think they are your equal.
• You are like a cat, you shit yourself and hide...
• It’s funny how you open your mouth like that))) Ahhh, that’s what you say!))))
• Yes... Sarcasm is not about you...
• What makes you think that I scare you? Am I a mirror, or what?
• If it gave me pleasure to communicate with ..., I would have had a dog a long time ago.
• Got up and left here, otherwise I will help you...
• If imbecility was a fatal disease, you would have been buried as a child.
• Make-up a la Valuev suits you.
• Gentleman, don’t meddle in the conversation, but do your direct duty - herding the sheep.
• All the people sent to us are our reflection, but in my case the reflection was from a distorting mirror...
• Such jokes are bad for me! Get this straight!
• If I knew you were like this... I wouldn’t know you!
• The cultural answer is that you could and should go to the Kunstkamera during your lifetime and quickly!
• I’ve been living on planet earth for as long as I’ve lived, but I’ve never seen such footage...
• Every day I believe in the power of the human personality, but apparently you are not a person...
• Your mother probably didn’t hug you much as a child, that’s why you’re so angry? Come to me I'll hug you…
• Rudeness and stupidity are synonymous with you...
• You're doing the right thing by giggling. They don't laugh with your teeth!
• A strong person does not notice insulting words! Understand that…
• Lay siege to the market dude... I’ll show you all the layouts now...
• Talk, talk... I always yawn when I'm interested.
• Don't joke like that anymore, otherwise I'm laughing...
• Yes, what kind of day am I having today?) There are only stupid people and idiots...
• For me, morally humiliating a person is not a big deal, but here’s the question. Do you really want it?
• Well, tell me about your idea of ​​this sinful world...
• Why are you growling, have you forgotten how to talk?
• You should have worn a red blouse. Match the color of your eyes.
• I would send you, but I see that you are from there! The ideal answer to the question is how to send a person away without swearing and without being humiliating!
• You can’t insult me ​​culturally! But throwing you out of my life is possible!
• Didn't you ever scare Babayka as a child?
• I don’t know what you eat for breakfast, but it really works, your intelligence tends to zero!
• Did you specifically wet your blouse (shirt) under your arms?
• You alone are an amazing person - not everyone can say that...)))
• I see you are literate? so I'll tell you now...

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How to respond to insults, how to morally humiliate a person with smart words on the Internet and in life

• Are you still here? Hasn't your mother brought any milk yet?
• You are not God's creation, but God's creature.
• I won’t even be offended; I don’t hit the mentally retarded.
• I didn't know that plants can think.
• Don't open your mouth at me, I'm not a dentist.
• Not witty, your stupidity is off the charts.
• He came, he saw and did not get up.
• When does your brain return from vacation?
• Don't look at me, maybe it's contagious.
• I don’t speak the language of stupid people, I don’t know how to explain it to you.